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Relationship Advice 2020: Make These New Year’s Resolution To Keep Your Relationship Alive And Healthy

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With every new year, we all need to ensure that our bonds grow stronger and our relationship grows more stable and put the efforts needed to keep our love alive and fresh.

New years is the time when everyone is busy making party plans and deciding upon the right new year’s resolution for their lives. We all hope to improve and do better every new year and make our lives more worthwhile. But this is also the time when we want to start a new beginning with a cleaner slate and renew everything in our lives. Now we all make good new year’s resolutions to make our lives more prosperous and positive but there are other things in our lives that need to grow and develop with every new year.

Every couple needs to take time to renew their relationship and refresh it. Our relationships too need some extra pampering and love as they grow and develop. It’s essential to ensure that our relationships grow the right way and make us happier and for that, we need to make some extra new year’s resolutions for our love lives as well. Every couple needs to make special resolutions to strengthen our relationship and ensure that we give more importance to our partner and our relationships.

Here are some special new year’s resolutions that every couple should make for a stronger and healthier relationship:

1. Promise each other that you will find some extra time from your busy schedules and spend time with your partner. This helps a couple get some alone time away from work and family and all the chaos and just be with each other and renew your romance.
2. Don’t live out your lives doing the same old things that you’ve been doing as a couple. Begin this new year with a promise to try new things with your partner. Travel to new places and go on adventure rides and do all the new things you’ve ever imagined because life is too short and we all need to make some new and good memories with our partners.
3. Don’t’ forget to do little things to make everything special for each other and make time to go out on dates together. Being married or in a relationship is not enough reason to not go out on dates. The dates keep the spark and love in your relationship alive.
4. Don’t forget to take vacations away from the people in your life. Go away for a weekend or just a few days away from everyone just to be with each other.
5. Remember to always keep the communication alive in your relationship. Don’t shut each other out and avoid conflicts and miscommunication and gaps in your relationship by communicating properly.
6. Be thankful for having a partner like yours and show some gratitude. Don’t take your partner and the things that they do for you and for the relationship for granted.

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Building Families: The Role Of Parents

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Now and then, we hear news of sad stories where nannies or house helps left to take care of children cause harm to them. What an irony! Cases of this nature range from the children being sexually molested, kidnapped or even killed. Sometimes, the children are even a danger to themselves, they pick up habits; which if not watched, become hardcore addictions. What is the cause of these recurring incidents? The family is one important unit; it’s a school on its own. We all start our learning from there as toddlers.

In singlehood, no one gives a thought to planning how family life would pan out. After the boisterous preparation of the wedding, entertainment of guests and all, the assumption is to take married life one day at a time. Do you think this is the best approach?

Sometime ago, I happened to be in the midst of three gentlemen whose topic for discussion was about having a child immediately after the wedding or two years after. Each of them aired their views quite alright. It is a known fact that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. You see, having a baby isn’t the issue—It is entirely up to you whenever you want it. The question is what happens when the child comes? As a parent, what do you do to better shape the behavioral and attitudinal inclinations of your child?

THE PIVOTAL ROLE OF PARENTS
The role of parents in their child’s life cannot be overemphasized. Have you seen a child whose first word is ‘uncle’ or ‘aunt’ ? Of course not! It’s either ‘Dada’ or ‘mama’ in their baby tongue. What does that tell you? Even this is only possible when the parents are around, because the baby becomes familiar with who he/she sees most of the time.

The child is taught etiquette; good behavioural patterns and character in the home. Who do you think makes this possible? Sadly, it’s at that stage that some become too busy, leaving the baby in the care of the nanny; sometimes for weeks. It’s a norm for most families, so they might not see how this can affect the child while growing.

EFFECTS OF PARENTAL ABSENCE
Parents whose career have more priority over the children would see the effects sooner or later. Their relationship is estranged. Even when they are around, there’s no difference; it’s like the elastic cord of family holding them together, after being stretched lax, suddenly snaps.

How would you feel when your child discusses their intimate issues with someone else instead of you? They will find solace outside the home, sometimes in the wrong people. Would you blame them? You do not have a family bond!

What about children who are exposed to sexual molestation from the nannies or even other members of the family? They can’t speak up because the same person who they’ve been close to, is the one who molests them. They loose their sense of trust and develop psychological trauma at an early age. Some become addicted to drugs, pornography, etc. They struggle with this internally even when they become adults.

Whatever action exhibited by the parents, whether positive or negative, always have an effect on the child; remember the children quickly grasp whatever they observe quickly at that tender age.

No one teaches you how to train a child in schools, it’s a responsibility which comes on you on arrival of the baby. You have to consciously make time, let your child watch you and learn from you. Like it or not, apart from inherited traits, we pick up certain behaviours from our parents. Ask yourself this question if you’re already a parent, what are my children learning from me? Or if you’re either single or married, what would I want my child to learn from me? This goes a long way.

What about children without parents? We are not unfamiliar with these special ones, we call them orphans. Imagine how children who don’t see their parents most of the time turn out, what would you say about children who have none?

WHAT CAN YOU DO?
Who wouldn’t want to have a close knit family; a family with a strong bond, that can withstand all storms of life, a family that eats, prays and stays together? Yes, we all do; but this isn’t just a word of mouth declaration, you should work towards this! No one is born with all the knowledge intact. We learn everyday!

And so, it’s imperative that you seek this knowledge. Read books on parenting, learn from others; no man is an Island. It’s true that no family is perfect, but as a family, over the years, you’ve gotten experiences and you know what you could have done better. You can help others to learn from your mistakes. We rise by lifting others!

For those who already have children, if you haven’t been doing it, please create a close relationship with them. Show them how much you’re interested in their well-being. Know what they spend their time doing and who they spend it with. Make sure they are aware that they can talk to you about any issue they’re facing.

When I was little, I wasn’t close to my dad, I couldn’t share anything with him. We literally always ran to our rooms whenever he came home. Imagine that, whenever I needed something, I had to write a letter and keep it where he would see it. That was what he required. I understand that he wanted to help us build our writing skills but he didn’t see that it didn’t encourage a relationship between us and him. This is important, know what your actions are doing to your children. As time went on, my dad saw that we weren’t close to him and he was perturbed. It’s a good thing that we can all learn from our mistakes and others too.

Learn to compliment your children. If this isn’t important, I don’t know what is o. Don’t be a standoffish parent. If your child does something you are impressed with, show it. Don’t only express disapproval when he/she does something bad. Don’t make them think you are unimpressionable.

You’ll make them crave for your approval and they won’t get it. Appreciate them, it boosts their self confidence. You know, if they go out with a low self esteem developed from home, people leverage on that and make it worse.

A friend of mine encountered this while growing up, she was constantly berated, sometimes for no reason. Worse still, she was very skinny. She was laughed at, not given attention, etc. Because of this, she felt ugly and unwanted, her self worth was at its lowest ebb. She was depressed and tend to seek love in places where she won’t get them. And of course, they were the wrong people.

Do you know this kind of situation could lead to suicide? You’ll be surprised at how your actions can affect someone. Please make a conscious effort to build your families in love. Make time for them now before it’s too late.

For the orphans, extend a hand to them. From time to time, show love. There’s so much love to give, don’t limit it to your family. The little you can do goes a long way. You can make time for them too, they are our children.

What are your ideas about how parents can build their homes? Please share in the comment section.

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These 7 Things Gradually Ruin Your Relationship

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Living in a healthy relationship will surely give you a healthy life. You will be able to live freely, walk freely and go anywhere you want without any restrictions. A healthy relationship often build you trust and confidence in the mind of your partner, this will enable them to know you can’t cheat, lie to them or deceive them.

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Then how do we build a healthy relationship? This is not a difficult thing, but most people find it difficult all because they are not being sincere and faithful to their lovers. If you can not be sincere to your lovers, then you can never build a lasting relationship.

There are many things that prevent your relationship from progressing. As a matter of fact, these things are dangerous things that may not allow your relationship to flow as it has being flowing before. These things will not allow you to live happily in your relationship because once they’re present in your relationship everything could turn to shamble.

However, for you to live happily in your relationship, there are few things that you have to get rid. Getting rid of these things will enable you to have a healthy relationship:

1. Anger: Anger often damages many things more than things it could repair. As a matter of fact, anger does not fix any good things in a relationship. Therefore, of you’re in a relationship and you always get angry at your boyfriend or your girlfriend, you always get angry at your fiance or your fiancee, then you’re not ready to have a peaceful and healthy relationship. Anger is surely one of those things that gradually ruin your relationship.

2.Jealousy: This is often common to ladies. Though men are also jealous, bit when it comes to ask unnecessary questions, you can give it to ladies. When you begin to get jealous whenever you see another woman beside your man or another man beside your woman, then your relationship is gradually heading to the brink of breakup. Being jealous could show that you truly love your lover, but too much of jealousy could damage your relationship.

3. Lying  when you are not being truthful to your lover it is a sign that you don’t love him or her again. Lying will only help you to break your lover’s confidence in you. He/she will start losing confidence in you and this could eventually lead to break up because no one is ready to date someone who is not being truthful to them.

4. Cheating: this is one of those things that ruin a relationship totally. You don’t have any reason to cheat when you’re in a serious relationship. Though women also cheat, most men see cheating as normal things and it is often common to men. Cheating will only end up breaking your relationship.

5. Lack of communication: when communication begin to reduce in a relationship, then the relationship begin to die down. One of those things that could help you build a lasting relationship is by communicating to your lovers often and often. This will strengthen your love and it will make them build confidence in you.

6. Lack of trust: When you begin to lose trust in your lovers, of course the relationship could easily get ruined.

7. Insincerity: this could be liken to lying but they’re not the same. When you’re not sincere in your actions, your words and your family activities, then your lover may begin to lose interest in you. And this could eventually lead to the end of that relationship. Since

However, you have to start avoiding these things, so you will start building a lasting relationship.

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10 Sure Signs That Shows The Love Of Your Life Is Deceiving You

A relationship is a complicated and fragile thing, especially between 2 people in love. It’s not always possible to keep the relationship as it was in the early years of dating. When the feelings are gone, not everyone is brave enough to put an end to this, and they may start lying.

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A relationship is a complicated and fragile thing, especially between 2 people in love. It’s not always possible to keep the relationship as it was in the early years of dating. When the feelings are gone, not everyone is brave enough to put an end to this, and they may start lying.

Bright Side invites you to look at 10 changes in behavior that should alert you and you tell you when the love of your life is deceiving you.

10. They worry if you touch their phone.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

Not everyone can stand it when people touch their personal things. To them, it’s not very pleasant. Yet if you accidentally took your partner’s phone and their reaction turned out to be overly strong and negative, and you’re absolutely sure they don’t have neurosis, maybe they have something to hide from you?

9. They often stay late at work.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

Sometimes people who say they work late really work late. And sometimes it’s a banal cover for an office romance or an unwillingness to see their partner. Why does it happen? You should search for the answer in a calm discussion. After all, once upon a time you both hurried home after work to dine together.

8. They are jealous for no reason.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

In small portions, jealousy is a wonderful feeling. In the first years of a relationship, it’s even pleasant because it means that you’re surely loved. Yet if years later your partner starts to get jealous out of nowhere, maybe they themselves have “unclean hands.”

7. They are irritated by excess attention and care.
10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

We often lack displays of love and attention from our beloved, and people usually enjoy their demonstration.Yet if you dote on your partner and they get irritated or dissatisfied, it’s better to stop and look for the reason.

6. The intimacy has long gone.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

An intimate life is important for a harmonious relationship. If there’s a lot of passion between the partners at the beginning, it may fade over time. A total absence of intimacy is a worrying sign. To save your relationship, talk to your partner. Try to find out what’s in their heart and why they went cold on you.

5. You don’t discuss plans for a shared future.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

Partners like to discuss their plans for the future, especially in the first years of a relationship. Where they will live — in a country house or apartment? Where they’ll go traveling — to the Maldives or Bulgaria? What pet they’ll get — a cat or a dog? If over time one of you is no longer interested in your shared future, try to find the reason.

4. They give too many presents for no reason.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

Everyone likes to get presents. Especially a woman — she feels like a real goddess then. Yet what if there are too many presents and the partner gives them more often than usual? First, you’ll be excited about this fact. But later, doubts and logical questions will arise: why do they behave like this? Have they done something to feel ashamed of?

3. They have sharp mood swings.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

There may be lots of difficult situations in our lives. We’re all exposed to stress and strain. This is why no one is safe from mood swings. Yet if there are too many of them and you’re sure it’s not about problems at work, maybe it’s better to have a heart-to-heart talk with your partner to understand what’s going on.

2. They change the subject during a serious conversation.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

It’s not the best time to have a serious conversation right after work or before going to bed. Yet if your partner flatly refuses to talk about crucial topics even in a good moment, maybe they’re just trying to avoid such conversations. It may be a sign that you should worry about the future of your relationship.

1. They are not ready to introduce you to their parents or friends.

10 Sure Signs You’re Being Deceived

If you have been dating for a long time but your partner is in no hurry to introduce you to their best friends or parents, it’s an alarming sign. If they’re serious about you, they won’t hesitate. Do they say they’re not ready, while you constantly find excuses for their behavior? Maybe you just don’t want to face the truth: you don’t hold an important place in your partner’s heart.

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