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What It Takes To Be In A Dating Relationship

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Dating is a stage of romantic relationships in humans whereby two people meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a prospective partner in an intimate relationship. It is a form of courtship, consisting of social activities done by the couple, either alone or with others.

“The purpose a relationship is to find your better half, the person that makes you whole, your ‘everything’. It a pity that in the recent years, dating relationship is no longer seen as a path that leads to marriage, teenagers now view a dating relationship as a relationship in which they can blow off steam, technically it’s not all, but some teenagers grew up in a crude environment with no one to doctrine their manners leading to false belief and improper thought. Thus can’t be blame on them but on the society.

Granted falling in love can’t be timed and it’s upto fate, but being in a relationship definitely needs some after thought. Here are what it takes to be in a relationship

Acceptance:

Money or cash aside, acceptance is one of the first thing to consider, being in a relationship means that your partner not only accepts you the way you are, but also inspires you to be the best version of yourself. Accepting someone for who they are also means accepting their flaws and imperfections, before jumping into a relationship, even if the feeling and chemistry is there, you need to first access the person, are you willing to accept them for who they are?. I’ve witnessed a relationship where they started quite good, but after some months, the girl started complaining about the guy having too many friends, granted they ain’t new found friends but the old ones that she knew of before they started dating, but only starts complaining after they got in deep, this is clearly “shouting hot!! After the knowledge that it’s hot”

Endurance:

I can tell you this for a fact, it’s people that you love most that always test your patience, but if we did really love them, we must endure their tantrums and their unreasonable demands, surely there are something that they will touch our bottom lines but as long as they ain’t manipulatively scheming it can be forgiven.

Respect:

Courtesy demands respect, we all have our egos,being in a relationship with someone you have to bequeath respect to them, no matter how small or insignificant they are, respect is reciprocal, if you want to be respected you need to hand it out too, respect of the body, mind, complex. You shouldn’t bully or backstab someone you are in a relationship with, that person at that particular time trusts you the most, and everything you shared together must be confidential.

Kiss and tell, this is probably one of the most shameful act, no matter what kind of relationship you both are in. You should involve in a sexual act with someone and still tell to others, it’s not only shameful, It also taints prestige and dignity.

These are some of the most compulsory things to take in measures before jumping relationship, Though sex is not compulsory but people get in a relationship because of attraction and chemistry so it can not be ignored, partners can explore one another body as long as it was permitted by the other, but nevertheless a relationship is not based on sexual activities because no matter what you’d definitely see someone better than your partner in that act.

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What Is The Aftermath Of COVID-19 Holding For Nigeria’s Transport Sector?

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As Nigeria continues her fight against the ravaging corona virus pandemic, economic experts have prophesied a rather bleaky and an uncertain aftermath/future for several of the nation’s sectors binding the economy as a whole.

Over a fortnight ago, there was the issue of oil price crash at the international market which made fiscal experts to encourage the government on the urgency of diversifying the nation’s economy and looking for other means of revenue aside oil.


Presently, the National Centre for Disease Control (NCDC) has reported over 200 recorded cases and over 20 casualties of the corona virus disease, though there were recoveries too. The despicable state of the nation’s health care infrastructure makes it almost impossible for the nation as a whole to defeat the virus and sweep it off its borders completely.


Sequel to the lockdown occasioned by the discovery of the virus, Nigeria was still struggling to recover from her increasing debt profiles. Earlier, the International Monetary Fund (IMF) was whimsically coaxed to reduce the rate of economic growth via the gross domestic product to 2 percent from the initial 2.5 percent. These and other economic factors like an unexpected quake sent cold shivers down the spine of Nigeria’s economy. Conversely, the economy was affected negatively.

Consequently, concerns, reactions and opinion trailed this as several people poured out their minds on the aftermath of the pandemic which many believe is yet to unfold.
One of the many areas of concern is the transport Industry which is believed to be one of the pillars on which Nigeria’s economy is resting. Others been communication, agriculture, manufacturing as well as the hitherto acclaimed oil and gas. A personal experience I had recently heightened my fears on this issue and proved it beyond reasonable doubts.

I reside in one of the North-Central States that has borders with two major South-Western States. Since the state is densely populated, there are several means of public transportation viz tricycles, motorbikes, buses and taxi cabs.

I was coming back from town and hitchhiked a tricycle. After telling the driver my destination, I asked him the price and he frankly told me it was nothing less than a hundred naira. This was a place that was half the price before the lockdown. Like an average Nigerian would do, I pleaded passionately with him after which he agreed to get me to the destination for sixty naira.

On my way home, I engaged myself in some mental discussions on the rationale behind the abrupt increase in the price of transport fares. Afterall, the government had not announced a hike in the price of petrol and other associated products. So why would these transporters want to use the event of the corona virus pandemic to exploit the poor? Several cities such as Lagos, Abuja, PortHarcourt and other places across the nation are also said to be expressing similar cases of hike in the price of transportation.

Without much controversy, Nigeria’s transport sector is one of the core areas of the economy. This has over the years proved to be a stable source of income for several of the nation’s teeming population especially in places like Lagos where many people get their means of survival from daily hustles.

With the recent crash in the price of oil at the international market, economic and financial experts have warned that there might likely be a abrupt increase in the price of transport. For instance, travelling to Lagos from the state I reside in initially was around 2,000 to 2,500. But a personal visit to motor parks and garages revealed that the price was double the price as Lagos now goes for about 6,000 and above.

The railway means of transport which should have assisted in cushioning the effect of the hike is on hold as several rail projects such as the Lagos-Ibadan standard rail gauge are on hold. The project according to Nigeria’s transport Minister, Rotimi Amaechi, was scheduled to be completed in the 1st half of the year. The current reality however, rebuffs the truth of that assertion. This is undoubtedly due to the pandemic which has held the country to ransom.

For the aviation sub-sector which is an exclusive reserve for the rich, issues of mistrust has enabled the country to ban all international flights. This according to the Aviation Minister, Hadi Sirika, is largely due to the fact that airline operators that were given the mandate of transporting stranded Nigerians from abroad have suddenly turned monopolists, using the rare privilege to engage in commercial operations.

Similar issue is also experienced along shipping lines. This according to the stakeholders has quantum effects on the value chain of logistics and cargo services and delivery. Thus, a transportation expert, Prof. Samuel Odewumi of the Lagos State University had rightly submitted that the consequences of the epidemic especially on the aviation industry are enormous. “Flights are being cancelled, Visas are getting suspended, protocols at the airports are getting complicated, scheduled events are getting cancelled……”, he said.

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In a circular dated 19th May, 2020, the Federal Airports Authority of Nigeria (FAAN) had announced a slash in the salaries and wages of its workers. FAAN expressed her concerns over her inability to generate revenue following the closure of airports and other associated airline businesses to contain the corona virus pandemic.

From the foregoing, it is almost unlikely for other agencies in the aviation sub-sector to tow the line of FAAN. These agencies are not limited to the Accident Investigation Bureau (AIB), Nigerian Meteorological Agency (NIMET) and others.

Though on an international perspective, the CNN had recently expressed concerns on the rate of increase in the price of air travels. In a recent report, the international media group noted that some airline operators are allowing bookings normally, while enforcing the social distancing orders. Thus, passengers are made to pay from $39 to ensure that the middle seat is vacant. This means that only about 50 – 60% of available seats on a plane can be booked.

Traders in the spare parts market are not left out too. The “no market” mantra never seems to come to an end. Since many of the traders are not able to ship their logistics especially from abroad again, they are forced to lock their shops. The few that found the courage to open for business are selling at a rather exorbitant rate.

The Assistant Public Relations Officer of the international Ladipo Spare Parts Market, Lagos, expressed his worries as members of his union are unable to travel to get their consignments.

However, many are hopeful that the gradual easing of the lockdown in states and the opening of the nation’s air and land borders would assist in reducing the effects of the pandemic on the transport sector and the economy as a whole.

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Nigeria: Of Gerontocrats, Oligarchists Or Democrats?

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Almost all social media and news organizations was agog with the news of the appointment of 75 year old Professor Ibrahim Agboola Gambari as the new chief of staff to the President, last Tuesday. This was following the unexpected event of the colossal loss of Alhaji Abba Kyari, the erstwhile Chief of Staff to the cold hands of death in the current COVID-19 pandemic ravaging the world.

Since the death of the hitherto powerful chief of staff who clinged to the pinnacle of political power till he breathed his last, several questions have continued to scale through the minds of Nigerians and high ranking politicians as to who would be selected to fill the vaccum of governmental duties and responsibilities left behind by the late personality (Abba Kyari) who amassed such volume of power, influence and authority to the extent of been regarded as the interim leader in the absence of the President and Commander in Chief of the nation’s armed forces.

Going through the profile of the selected personality, one cannot but submit to the fact that he is skilled and versed in all matters relating to governance, political adminstration and the polity. This on its own was to be an extra feather in his cap considering his level of academic and managerial expertise.

Needless to say that Gambari crossed the T’s and dotted the I’s which undoubtedly saw him rising through the ranks to become a Professor of no mean repute. Apparently, all these earned him the rare privileges of serving the nation in different capacities both within and outside the country’s borders.

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However, it is best not to examine the issue at hand from the focal point of a single lens. Hence, it is if paramount importance to examine it using the full-fledged compass of equity, moral justice, fairness cum accountability.

Nigeria’s political structure of late has been regarded as dogmatic, one-sided and lopsided. It is as though, some categories of people and ethnic tribes have been destined by the gods and goddesses of politics to always be at the center.

The postulated Federal Character Principle which seeks to ensure that political appointments especially those at the federal level was shared by all states and local governments supporting the entire nation has been and is been trampled upon under different circumstances and conditions.

Historically, Nigeria returned to the democratic system of governance in the year 1999. This on its own wasn’t achieved on a platter of gold as the nation went through crucibles of civil and ethnic wars, coup d’etat inter alia.

The successful take over of the nation’s political authority by former President Olusegun Obasanjo from General Abubakar Abdulsalam that year marked a successful return to democracy. Consequently, a new constitution was drafted which defined Nigeria as a secular cum democratic state. Who then could have thought that after two decades we could have slided quickly into autocracy, oligarchy and gerontocracy?

The current reality of events makes many submit to the fact that Nigeria’s system is one of putting new wines in old bottles and keeping old wines in new bottles. This on its own berates the principle of Democracy and Rule of Law propunded by both Abraham Lincoln and Prof. A.V. Dicey and the which we claim to be practising.

While in theoretical terms, the country is said to be practising democracy as enshrined in our constitution, in practical terms however, we cannot lay full claim to the that fact as we have inoculated several systems of governance. An attempt to give the system a terminology would rather be a herculean task.

It is highly ludicrous and a display of absurdity in the veil of sarcasm and deceit for our political leaders to condition the minds of young Nigerians into believing that there is a paucity of hands to manage and stir the nation’s ship. Hence, the aged are needed to assist in political adminstration. How then do we want to believe the fact that the young can actually grow as we have been conditioned to accept several times? Or that we are the leaders of tomorrow like we have always sung from cradle?

While experience without mincing words is said to be the best teacher. Conversely, experience is not something to be built roughshod in the middle of the night. Thus, it is high time our leaders begin to make use of young chaps political adminstration.

If truly, Nigerian youths are the future of the nation, then I guess it’s time they be fully immersed in the nation’s political culture. Afterall, a Nigerian proverb has this to say that if a child would act smart in the future, his childhood doings would reflect that. I hope our leaders heed the warning.

Nigeria and Africa in general have be known for believe in the irrational political principle of recycling. This has made many of our leaders extremely drunk with political power. Time won’t permit to talk of Robert Mugabe who even at the age of 90 years clinched to the seat of Zimbabwe’s Presidency as though it were a lifetime occupation, or of Paul Biya who is currently the sitting President in Cameroon after over 35 years in power.

If truly, the late Benedict Odiase sang that the labour of our heroes past shall not be in vain, then it is high time we take speedy action lest we be caught by the wind.

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Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Tell Your Partner If You Cheated

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Cheating is definitely one of the crack that can lead to an untimely destruction of a loving relationship, because of the flaunting characteristics in human behavior,while most people view sexual contact as the ultimate betrayal, the other activities, while perhaps innocent at the outset, aren’t so black-and-white. but no matter what, cheating is cheating.


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Most times cheating occur when partners don’t have enough time together or when there’s lack of communication, in fact some people cheat because they aren’t happy in their current relationship. After cheating and realization finally dawn on you..what will you do? Will you tell your partner or not? Here are 3 reasons why you shouldn’t speak of this to your partner

Lack of trust: Trust me, if you cheat on your partner and after doing the deeds whether sexual deeds or not, the trust will be affected automatically, No matter how strong or deep the love is, there will always be a crack in it, that’s if the partner really loves you enough to continue the relationship, but if your partner is the possessive type, there’s no amount of cries or apology that can bring them back. 

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Insensitivity: After their knowledge of the fact that you cheated, their loving and caring attitude might changed towards you, and the angel you knew might turn to a demon in a blink of eye, that’s where the insensitivity comes in, some people might turn insensitive because they’d think after all the love they showed you, you still cheated on them, whereas it might be unintentional. Couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine had an unplanned sex with a stranger, well according to her, it was spur of the moment, I was surprised, this particular girl is headover heels in love with her boyfriend and I will never peg her as someone that’s likely to cheat, ” I felt so lost and empty” she said, I advised her not to say word of it toner boyfriend because the guy will be devasted, but she said if she continue keeping it in her mind, she won’t be able to move on, after telling the guy, he started treating her like shit and throwing her deeds to her face, she lived a live worse than hell, until she finally was able to snap out of it.

insecurities: in terms of insecurities, it happens if your partner really believed in you and thinks the world of you, such partner will prefer never to find out about your misdeeds, because it can leads to insecurities it can also leads to depression, you’d think you are saving the relationship by telling them but you are actually ruining their self esteem, affection, and even trust to brace another relationship. Of course there’s a saying which says “it’s not cheating unless you get caught”, but it’s still cheating still if you cheat, your conscience will continue judging you, to put it plainly, if you cheat and you tell your partner is just a way of avoiding the responsibilities, but you’dfeel peace after telling your partner but that might not stop you from doing it another time, whereas if you cheat and the fear of your partner finding out keep disturbing your mind, you’d want to do everything in your power to increase the feeling so your partner wouldn’t notice, to me, cheating is also a way of knowing whether you truly love your partner or not. If you can comfortably deceive your partner without any remorse, you are definitely not with the right person.

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