Cheating is definitely one of the crack that can lead to an untimely destruction of a loving relationship, because of the flaunting characteristics in human behavior,while most people view sexual contact as the ultimate betrayal, the other activities, while perhaps innocent at the outset, aren’t so black-and-white. but no matter what, cheating is cheating.
Most times cheating occur when partners don’t have enough time together or when there’s lack of communication, in fact some people cheat because they aren’t happy in their current relationship. After cheating and realization finally dawn on you..what will you do? Will you tell your partner or not? Here are 3 reasons why you shouldn’t speak of this to your partner
Lack of trust: Trust me, if you cheat on your partner and after doing the deeds whether sexual deeds or not, the trust will be affected automatically, No matter how strong or deep the love is, there will always be a crack in it, that’s if the partner really loves you enough to continue the relationship, but if your partner is the possessive type, there’s no amount of cries or apology that can bring them back.
Insensitivity: After their knowledge of the fact that you cheated, their loving and caring attitude might changed towards you, and the angel you knew might turn to a demon in a blink of eye, that’s where the insensitivity comes in, some people might turn insensitive because they’d think after all the love they showed you, you still cheated on them, whereas it might be unintentional. Couple of weeks ago, a friend of mine had an unplanned sex with a stranger, well according to her, it was spur of the moment, I was surprised, this particular girl is headover heels in love with her boyfriend and I will never peg her as someone that’s likely to cheat, ” I felt so lost and empty” she said, I advised her not to say word of it toner boyfriend because the guy will be devasted, but she said if she continue keeping it in her mind, she won’t be able to move on, after telling the guy, he started treating her like shit and throwing her deeds to her face, she lived a live worse than hell, until she finally was able to snap out of it.
insecurities: in terms of insecurities, it happens if your partner really believed in you and thinks the world of you, such partner will prefer never to find out about your misdeeds, because it can leads to insecurities it can also leads to depression, you’d think you are saving the relationship by telling them but you are actually ruining their self esteem, affection, and even trust to brace another relationship. Of course there’s a saying which says “it’s not cheating unless you get caught”, but it’s still cheating still if you cheat, your conscience will continue judging you, to put it plainly, if you cheat and you tell your partner is just a way of avoiding the responsibilities, but you’dfeel peace after telling your partner but that might not stop you from doing it another time, whereas if you cheat and the fear of your partner finding out keep disturbing your mind, you’d want to do everything in your power to increase the feeling so your partner wouldn’t notice, to me, cheating is also a way of knowing whether you truly love your partner or not. If you can comfortably deceive your partner without any remorse, you are definitely not with the right person.